Leah Morrigan: Women At Clubs Are Bitches. Men Are Responsible For This

Men’s image consultant (whatever that is), Leah Morrigan, laments that somehow, men have not only ruined women, but dating in the modern world. How is this? Let’s find out.

S., one of my clients who prefers to remain unnamed, is a well-dressed, successful 40-year-old financial professional who owns his own house and car. In less than two years, he’s worked hard with a personal trainer and lost 70 pounds. One might think he’d have luck with women with all of these things going for him but after a year of clubbing, he’s still single and still looking.

First mistake: Expecting to find a satisfying, non-emasculating relationship with the modern Canadian or American woman. Expecting to find a good woman in a club, the contemporary Church of Female Vanity, is like shaking the Slut Tree and expecting a wife to fall out.

 On weekends, he goes to downtown clubs in the hopes of meeting women. Here, he says, women expect attention, free drinks, and ego validation with the option to brush the guy off. He told me horror stories of his and his friend’s attempts to strike up conversations with women, often received with rudeness, humiliating responses, and in one case, a blood-splattering punch to the jaw.

Dance, puppet! Dance! I reiterate, unless you’re just out to get your dick wet, looking for true love at the club is an exercise in futility. And expecting women to react to your supplicating gifts with any sort of respect, grace, or even civility gets you the aforementioned rudeness, humiliation, and “a blood splattering punch to the jaw” (or first degree assault, if it were a man doing it).

If men receive this kind of treatment from women just by speaking to them, it’s understandable how they could grow bitter and frustrated, though some become downright hateful. Embittered by their experiences, a few have made businesses out of their hate-on for women and encourage other men to channel their anger and treat women as non-humans; commodities to be consumed — but without taking stock in themselves.

And the Feminist buzzword is expertly deployed: bitter. “OMG! You’re so bitter! How dare you take from your experience that women are anything but perfect angels, worthy of your attention, free drinks and ego validation? And worse, how dare you talk about it with other men? You should just sit in the corner and suffer in silence, you misogynist creep!”

 The more well-known “pickup artists” include Julian Blanc, known to Emma Teitel in MacLean’s as a “sophomoric ass” who incites violence against women in his teachings to awkward men to get them laid. Then there is Men Going Their Own Way, or MGTOW, an online men’s community that supports “a statement of self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else.” I was delighted to find this site until I read further and found that what began as masculine empowerment quickly turned vile. The founder, known as Sandman, sits safely behind his computer screen and proclaims his bitter, indiscriminate hate towards women, according to his videos I’ve watched. Sandman says that all women are manipulative whores and liars; he slut-shames, fat-shames, and age-shames women, and ironically complains about being single.

I must confess, I missed the whole “pickup artist” bandwagon, but I do not comprehend how “pickup artists” talking women into having sex with them qualifies as “violence.” But then, I’d sooner bite through my tongue than beg for sex, which is what pickup artists do, just in a more efficient way. But I did have a good belly laugh at Leah’s analysis of Men Going Their Own Way, and her summary coronation of the Youtuber Sandman as King of the MGTOWs. Sandman is no more the “founder” of MGTOW than former President James Buchanan or Nikola Tesla, or Isaac Newton, or Jesus, is the “founder” of MGTOW and according to those who claim to be MGTOW, it isn’t a hierarchy, or a movement, or an organization. They are just various men of different ages, races, and backgrounds who chose to act in their own self-interests and not sacrifice themselves for a society or group of women who clearly don’t respect them (you know, but treating with rudely, humiliating them, or giving them a “blood splattering punch to the face).

Though still feeding the feminine obsession, not all of these kinds of sites are about female manipulation. I came across a site that encourages men to examine who they are before attempting to approach women (what a concept!). The Attraction Institute says that men can still be free, still be themselves, and meet women who like men for who they really are, instead of pretending to be someone else worried about whether or not the thin façade can be maintained. Sounds more realistic but sites like these are few and far between.

Yes, the Attraction Institute, for the low price of $360, they’ll teach you how to be the sort of man who gets a gold star from the ladies at the club, but still like you for who you really are! Meanwhile, Leah rather comically misses the point of the aforementioned MGTOWs and their Holy Pontiff, Sandman. These men aren’t necessarily bitter (though I fail to see how “bitterness” or bad experiences translates to an inability to tell the truth). They’ve come to that harsh realization that there’s more to life than acquiring pussy.

But I do agree with the Attraction Institute in one respect: Hookers are cheaper than dates.

http://attractioninstitute.com/buy-yourself-a-hooker-instead-of-taking-women-on-dates

 It’s important to consider perspective here. Men may not consider the tricky social position women find themselves in: we’re the targets of constant male attention, desire, and sometimes aggression. This puts us into a state of defensiveness (self-preservation) or what Blanc calls the “bitch sheild.”

There’s a lot wrong with these three little sentences. First, Leah characterizing herself as, as a woman, as the “target” of male attention smacks of wishful thinking. Second, the word “target” itself. Why target? Target suggests that male attention is an attack, an act of violence, that men are always the active party, the aggressors, in sexual attraction, and women are always the passive, unsuspecting victims of the evil males. Synonymous with “target” is “prey”, “game”, “quarry”, and “kill.” Why not “recipient”? Or beneficiary? Or even receiver? I guess male attention is only welcome when accompanied by “free drinks” and “ego validation.”

We’re not bragging, but we know that men will always want us and we usually have the choice whether to couple or not, especially if we’re good-looking. Why? Because society is preoccupied with what women look like and this must have a massive influence on the human psyche. In the Kardashian-styled age of the egotistic selfie and the popularity contest that is social media, there is pressure and an expectation to be beautiful and sexy/self-absorbed and narcissistic. This, and the influence of media that seems to reward and normalize bitch behaviour can create legions of women who say, Yeah, I’m all that, and you have to work for it.

 

This is not natural, it is learned.

Leah is right, men will always want women more than women want men. Biology is a bitch like that. From the time a man turns 13 until his 50s, his body is screaming at him “REPRODUCE!” You should thank men for their tireless effort to propagate the human race. Men care what women look like, but only to a point. The bar for male attraction to women is relatively low, which is why men will have sex with women who are indisputably fat, ugly, stupid, crazy, or some combination of the four. Women are more preoccupied with what women look like than men will ever be, or specifically “how dare that bitch look better than me! I hate her!”

But Leah, rather than telling women to rise above society (*cough*WOMEN*cough*) and its pressures, she makes excuses for why women get to be self-absorbed, egomaniacal, narcissistic, wannabe-Kardashians. Women don’t have moral agency. They are just puppets dancing on the strings of society, and the media, and dare I utter that most evil of names, The Patriarchy.

With a touch of bitterness, S. now takes satisfaction in rejecting women himself, to “give them a taste of their own medicine.” Sounds like a war that no one will win.

In the end, like attracts like, so I say, imagine your equal; be realistic and take an objective look at yourself. What do you have going for you? Have you made an effort to look as good as she does? What could you improve? Ask yourself where your equal/cool, down-to-earth women would hang out — would it be in a nightclub?

If society eased up on its pressure for people to couple, I don’t think we’d be having this conversation. This social expectation keeps people frustrated and unhappy, so why do we allow it? If we ditch the idea and free ourselves from the pressure, maybe there will be fewer pickup artists, less gender violence, and fewer frustrated single men.

 

Once again, men are leading the way. S isn’t waging a war with women. He’s withdrawing from the war entirely, which is the best strategy when faced with a war you cannot win and a cause that isn’t worth fighting for. Leah’s so-called “pressure to couple” that “society” places on people is a pressure that women place on men, specifically, the pressure to commit to a single woman, and especially as a woman gets older and finds herself the recipient of less male attention, fewer free drinks, and no ego validation. Single men are slowly realizing that there is little satisfaction to be found in women, outside of the realm of sex and that true satisfaction is found in themselves and their own interests. Despite Leah’s appeal that single men continue digging through the bitch haystack for that “equal/cool, down-to-earth woman” needle, more men, the MGTOW men are saying “fuck it, life is too short to put up with your crap. I’m going golfing.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/leah-morrigan/modern-dating-frustrations_b_7538254.html

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