So he’s back. My buddy, my friend, my favorite Canadian male feminist, Stephen Marche. That’s right, the Snowboard Instructor-in-Chief is no longer number 1 on my list of Canucks. I’ve had to shit on this guy twice now (see 1 and 2). But love Canada and Canadians so much, I’ve got to go for the hat trick (bask in that cheesy hockey reference).
Having proven to be unfit for the purpose for which he was designed (to infect the male population with the virus of feminism), he returns to appeal to women to do what they do best and nag men into giving Feminists what they want.
Dear American women,
This beta male feminist missionary to heathen males schtick is wearing thin.
I’m embarrassed to be writing to you today. I’m doubly embarrassed because I’m not really talking to you. I’ve tried, honestly, to reach men. But because this article is about gender, no man will read it. Recently, I wrote a book called “The Unmade Bed: The Messy Truth About Men and Women in the 21st Century.” I’ve been interviewed about it maybe 20 or 30 times, and always — always — by women.
That’s great, Stephen. It really is. Remember, you’re not supposed to talk to women. You’re supposed to LISTEN and BELIEVE.
And shill that book, too.
Men’s ignorance is a problem because the reality of gender is changing, viscerally, dramatically, and there are some things men need to know about. And they don’t know and they aren’t listening.
Yeah, men aren’t listening to you in the same way that men aren’t in the market for mirror-sheen quality polished turds.
My hope is that the women reading this piece understand the ignorance of men and are willing to put it in front of some they care about. Younger men, preferably: sons or nephews or brothers or boyfriends or husbands or the local football team or whatever. What they need to know is not particularly complicated, though it will probably surprise most of them. The key points, the life-saving points, boil down to just three things:
Why is it always the football team with these weak betas? What is the goddamn fixation with football players? Are you really that traumatized and pissy that you couldn’t even sneak on the third-string and impress some airhead with a letter jacket? Are you that fucking mad about?
Let it go.
1. Don’t take your friendships for granted. This may seem like a small point, but it isn’t. Growing up, for men, means growing out of their friendships. As boys mature into men, they shed their intimate relationships with each other. Girls don’t. And the suicide rate for men spikes exactly as they lose their friendships. Between the ages of 10 and 14, boys are twice as likely to commit suicide as girls. Between 15 and 19, it rises to four times. By 20 to 24, it’s five times.
Men are social animals, even though all male ideals tell them they should be alone. Traditional masculine ideals are lonely figures — cowboys, astronauts. But loneliness kills men. Divorced men are 10 times more likely to be depressed than married men. Divorced men have a mortality rate 250 percent higher than married men. Men have to make a conscious effort to be social. Otherwise, they die.
Male ideas, my ass. First, men are more likely to lose friends due to a nagging wife/girlfriend than they are to “grow out of their friendships.” Cupcake doesn’t like your friends you used to go hounding for pussy with, or you just have too much fun with them. So she will try to sabotage your friendships, either by inserting herself into your time with them, or shaming you into not going out with them.
Let’s refer to the Basic Bitch Bible, Cosmopolitan.
The six ways can be boiled down to: Nag him, Infiltrate his network, Surveill him at all times.
Divorced men are more likely to be depressed than married men and more likely to die sooner? Well no shit. The increase of depression and mortality has less to do with the forcible removal of The Parasite Formerly Known As Wifey, and more to do with the state-sponsored reaming a divorced man takes in the form of alimony, parental alienation, and the sacrifice of the aforementioned network of friends on the altar of matrimonial détente.
2. Misogyny makes you way less healthy. The evidence on mental health is unequivocal. In a recent study by the American Psychological Association involving 19,453 participants, researchers tested 11 traits associated with traditional masculinity. Almost all of them are bad for you. “Being a playboy” and holding “power over women” are the norms most closely associated with sexist attitudes, and the report is very clear about what happens to men who most value these concepts, stating that: “Conformity to masculine norms was significantly and unfavorably associated with mental health and psychological help seeking.” When you see some guy treating women like garbage, he’s not strong. He’s weak.
Actually, it’s pretty damn equivocal. Since Stephen Marche is a propagandist and not an advocate, he presents this meta-analysis as if Moses descended from the mountain with them scrawled on stone tablets.
The study is limited because it did not consider the physical activity of the individuals (see p.89)…AT ALL. Additionally, the sample was limited to a small number of American men (id.) In doing research about people’s physical health, it is usually helpful to know what sort of physical activities they engage in before you ask “Do you like winning?”
No, seriously, winning is listed as one of the “11 distinct dimensions of masculine norms.” I guess one of the feminine norms is “losing.”
If you want to read the article in its entirety, click HERE. (Meta-Analyses of the Relationship Between Conformity to Masculine Norms and Mental Health-Related Outcomes)
3. Take women’s jobs. You don’t really have a choice on this one. It’s very simple: Traditionally male jobs in industry are disappearing. Traditionally female jobs in the service-sector are growing. Women take men’s jobs more and more. Men are not taking women’s jobs. The United States lost 5 million manufacturing jobs between 2000 and 2014. Thirteen of the 20 fastest-growing industries in America are in health care. Do the math.
Two weeks after Trump was elected, a self-driving truck service delivered a shipment of Budweiser in Colorado. If you are a truck driver, start training to be a nurse now. If you are young, expand beyond the jobs you may have once considered. The definition of a man for generations has been a family provider. You won’t be able to provide if you don’t take women’s work.
Why should a man provide for anyone but himself? Why would “provider game” work on a woman if she can provide for herself? That “math” Stephen is talking about doesn’t add up, though I do appreciate Stephen’s thinly-veiled appeal to the traditional role of male provisioning to the family. Feminists have no problem with retaining THAT particular traditional gender role.
As to the other part, that has some red meat that deserves its own treatment. Stephen is singing the praises of the “service-sector” and telling men to be nurses. Let’s dig into that. The cost of a bacherlor’s degree in Nursing can range from $40,000 to $100,000, depending on the university. You won’t be paying for that yourself, so you’re going to take out loans to pay for that. Once you do that, assuming you get a job, you might start out at $30,000-$60,000. Sounds good, but that assumes you can actually find a job. So you’ve made through and found a job and are working hard. How long are you going to work in the nursing industry? Attrition in nursing is real.
And this is why I call Stephen Marche a propagandist: He’s here to sell a line that debt-slavery and willing submission to life in the Servant Economy is something that men should embrace.
We can’t all get in on the low-stress propaganda hustle like Stephen.
That’s it. It’s just those three points: Don’t abandon your friends. Don’t treat women like garbage. Don’t limit yourself to jobs that men used to do.
The first point I agree with. Don’t abandon your friends, no matter how much cupcake might bitch and moan about them. Pussy comes and goes; Good friends are for life.
The second point is sophistry. Treat women as their behavior merits, just like anyone else.
The third point is just finger-wagging. Men, get a hustle, get good at it, and get to the point where you don’t have punch somebody else’s time-clock to make your money. I’m not there myself, but I aspire to it.
But getting men to think about their new reality for two minutes seems a nearly inhuman feat. Men are not used to thinking of themselves as belonging to a gender; women are. Because men will not face the new gender realities, they are suffering, and their suffering has consequences for everyone. Middle-aged white men are dying at unprecedented rates — from opioids, from booze, from suicide. According to the Case-Deaton report, the mortality rate of American men in the middle of their lives has risen 20 percent since 1999.
Let me sum up for you what they are really dying from: not facing reality.
Aww, look at Stephen, pretending to care, even as he not so subtly asks:
“Have you tried being more like a woman?”
And simultaneously admonishes:
“Stop punching yourselves, stupid men!”
The only true statement in this paragraph is that men are suffering. But it’s missing something. Men are not only suffering; they are also adapting. And they are adapting along lines that are not profitable to Feminists or the State in general. Some men are suffering in silence. Some are anesthetizing themselves with booze and porn and video games. Some of us are figuring out how to get what we want to make our own lives comfortable without giving wealth or time to women.
Stephen Marche and company should not worry too much about men who are dying; they should be more worried about men who are surviving, the ones who are adapting the “new reality.”
The end result of the adaptation will not be New Feminist Man; It will be MGTOW Man.